Are you flying solo in your partnership ?

Try Couples Counseling

In a Partnership its easy to have a loss of focus on the relationship over time. One person will come home from work and greet their partner in a more or less, routine way. Somehow this has become a negative repeating pattern of INATTENTION.

“Hi Honey, how was your day/” While this might sound like a caring greeting when the relationship is new, after hearing this 365 days X many years of marriage, what does it really mean? In my Private Practice, focusing on Couples Counseling, this routine greeting is meant to be a welcoming hello, but many times it turns out to be less than engaging.

TIPS for Connecting with your partner:
1. Agree on a shared meaning for your interactions. In the example above, this automatic greeting could mean “Im tired, give me ten minutes to unwind. before we attempt a meaningful conversation.”
2. Vary your routine. Meet at a coffee shop for a relaxing cup of Lavendar Tea before going home to begin the evening.
3. Schedule a Date Night once a week. Dress for your partner with the same interest, as when you began dating.

If your not at the level of arranging these three suggestions, it may indicate that you could benefitt from a Counseling Session in my office.

I’m more than happy to help at 949-285-5199

I’m in Irvine at:

The University Tower – UCI Adjacent
4199 CampusDrive, Suite 550
Irvine, California 92612

Did you know ?


Couples Counseling can help you and your partner learn to communicate effectively, decrease the reactivity that leads to loud demanding interactions, and eventually increase intimacy?

This is a process that begins when you make that first call.

    I’m Dr. Kerns and I am an Experienced Couples Counselor. You may call me now at 949-285-5199 or leave me a text message, and I will get back to you.

I have also had success with Pre-marital counseling, Trust Issues, Sex Therapy, Addiction to Love, Porn, & Sex, and working with Inter-Racial Couples.

I am a Skilled Therapist, and Clinical Member of:

AASECT – American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists

CASTOC – Couples and Sex Therapist of Orange County

CAMFT – California Association of Marriage Family Therapists

OCCAMFT – Orange County CAMFT

You may call me at 949-285-5199 or visit my Website at